I remember bemoaning my dating troubles to a male co-worker and he said, ”Bettie, you scare the crap out of men. You need to dumb it down a little.” I took his advice and stopped talking to men in my true voice. I started staring at them. Laughing at their jokes and started listening more. Even if I already knew about a topic, I would lie and say I had no idea. This makes men feel smart. I can act scared, weak, timid and best of all DUMB, just so I can hit it and quit it as much as I want. The male ego is a fabulous toy. This is a genius and fun game. They don’t mind it at all as long as they can see me naked.
I often think of men like dogs or lions. They’re primal and I love it. If your girlfriend asked your man to come over to her house and help her move the sofa, what would happen? If she put her ass up in front of his face and said fuck me, do you think he would say no? Scary, isn’t it girl? What you have to do is gain that type of confidence and attitude that men have about sex. You have to love it more than anything and want it more than food. You must work at the skill of not caring. You have been trained and pre-conditioned your whole life to put his needs above yours. That is wrong. You have every right to enjoy it. You have permission to want it badly all the time. The idea that fucking and love must go hand and hand is utter bullshit. It has NOTHING to do with love. You hear me darling? NOTHING.
How about his best friend? The one you have so much in common with. What if he showed up on his motorcycle and said “Let’s go for a ride.” What would you do? “Hop on baby lets go.” Those are some of the sweetest words you will ever hear. Do you want to live your entire life wondering what if? Get on that bike AND that jock faster than anyone can say CHEATER! Cheating is such a stupid word. Cheating at what? You are just openly exploring the other gender.
Once you have officially put your name on the naughty list, you will thank me.